Dr Bindumenon

 

It was late in the afternoon when the caregiver stormed into the OPD, visibly agitated.  He raised his voice, frustrated that his father’s tremors hadn’t improved despite weeks of medication. The room became tense with his tone of voice and my staff became quiet.    I gently asked him to come inside and sit down and he did so. After couple of seconds without raising his head in a quiet tone he said “Everything is the same, nothing is helping”  He had nothing further to say no further questions.  No anger.  Just exhaustion.  Unlike this gentleman. There is this lady, a woman in her early 50s taking care of her mother with Alzheimer’s came to me, not for her mother’s treatment, but for her own migraines, sleep issues, and unexplained palpitations.  As we spoke, it became clear: she was carrying more than physical strain—she too was drowning   Just exhaustion.  As a neurologist, I have seen this pattern far too often. While we focus on th...

It was one of my regular days to work.  I was watching the crowd outside from my car. At a traffic signal, I saw a young guy on a motorcycle stream past several vehicles with such twisted precision and reach the starting point. He seemed to be in a marathon race. He was constantly racing his very nice bike and the sound resonated everywhere.  He was the centre of attraction!  As we got the green signal I could hear his bike speeding off. I know him he is an employee at my place of work. While I reach my workplace, I saw him rushing to the elevators. Well, he had just gained a couple of minutes that me!  “I don’t have the time.”   It’s a phrase we hear daily. We live in an age of rush—fast food, fast eating, fast i.e. quick naps, fast internet, fast travel, fast texting.  And hence, as we rush, we also expect our returns to come at the same speed, which hardly ever happens.  We have forgotten to live in the present by chasing the ticking of ...

It was a holiday.  However, having just returned from a ten-day break, I had some pending follow-up consultations and reports to attend to.  After lunch, at the scheduled time, I called my secretary to check if any patients had arrived. Experience had taught me that while many insist on appointments, few actually show up on holidays.  “There are just two patients, madam,” he informed me. “I’ll come now,” I replied.  “Madam, Why don’t you wait? More people might come. Why do you want to waste your time?” he suggested.  I warmed at his concern and said, “It’s not their fault that they arrived on time and followed discipline. Why punish them for being responsible?”  I reached the clinic and saw my patients. As expected, there were long intervals of waiting, but I had no complaints. I used the time productively, catching up on other work. More importantly, I had done justice to those who had honoured their time and commitment.  I chose kindness over co...

Every day feels like a test now.   My profession requires me to meet hundreds of people. Most of the time, I don’t need to know them deeply. That’s the nature of my work. I can stay in my professional space, focus on my patients, and give my best to them. I’ve immersed myself so deeply in the medical world that I understand patients and caregivers well. I can often predict what they think, how they act, and react, and what they need or expect. Well. Almost most of the time!! But this deep professional involvement came at a cost—I became a novice in my personal life. As years passed, I aged both personally and professionally but matured only professionally.   I started to understand that the rules of personal and professional relationships are entirely different. Personal relationships, especially those outside your family, often come with conditions.  They change.   They can be deceptive, sometimes intriguing, but many a time, they are heartbreaking. I’ve always trus...

When I turned 50, I reached a physical and hormonal milestone — menopause.   As far I was concerned, it was a mild physical transformation, but what jolted me was the profound….. shift in my mental and emotional space.   While I had gracefully attained my physical half-century, away from all the   risk factors that often accompany age, I realized that my mental maturity hadn’t reached its age As I embraced my physical maturity, my mind began its first baby steps. Life taught me and I had to rewrite my thoughts, perceptions, and understanding of the people in this world.   I learned Trust is fluid . Long-standing bonds that I felt would never shake crumbled in a fraction of a second. I understood that it is better to let go to embrace self-peace. Some relationships teach us life lessons   Instincts are power banks . One should listen to the inner voice even when the outer world appears contradictory. I started trusting my inner voice more now.   Set boundari...