Physical Menopause and Mental Menarche: A Simultaneous attainment

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When I turned 50, I reached a physical and hormonal milestone — menopause. 

As far I was concerned, it was a mild physical transformation, but what jolted me was the profound….. shift in my mental and emotional space. 

While I had gracefully attained my physical half-century, away from all the  risk factors that often accompany age, I realized that my mental maturity hadn’t reached its age


As I embraced my physical maturity, my mind began its first baby steps. Life taught me and I had to rewrite my thoughts, perceptions, and understanding of the people in this world. 


I learned


Trust is fluid. Long-standing bonds that I felt would never shake crumbled in a fraction of a second. I understood that it is better to let go to embrace self-peace. Some relationships teach us life lessons 


Instincts are power banks. One should listen to the inner voice even when the outer world appears contradictory. I started trusting my inner voice more now. 


Set boundaries to earn self-respect. Compromising does make one appear a hero at times. However, I learned that it drains one’s energy and also loses the focus on the real things that matter to me. 


Don’t trust anyone because you are lonely. I started enjoying my own company more often with a sense of fulfillment in songs, dance, poetry, writing and even quietly sipping a cup of tea. This contentment was true and this avoids the temptation to trust other people who may not have your best interests in mind. 


Trust people but don’t be blind. Trusting others doesn’t make you a foolish person it shows you are a true human. I had read somewhere that not everyone in your boat is rowing. Someone is secretly punching holes. It sounded so apt


To every woman navigating this worldly lonely path -  tread gracefully and happily but carefully. 


I attained my physical menopause and mental menarche at the same time !! 


You can be wiser and do better 

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